Have you ever failed at something really important or vital? Of course, what a ridiculous question. How did you respond though? Everyone fails in life. Some people more than others. Some fail by doing the same thing over and over. Pure insanity. Some fail by trying to achieve a goal or result, they don't get what they want, and then they commit the ultimate failure - they never try again. Others fail simply by never putting themselves out there. For the sake of space, let's forget those who never put themselves out there. That's just pure loser mentality. Let's deal with how to handle failures. What separates the successful in life from everyone else, in regards to failure, is to view and approach failure differently. First, don't view failure like everyone else. See the results you’re getting for what they are, and accept them as just that. Don't see them worse than they are. The result is just some form of outcome. What can you learn from your result, and how can you change your approach to get a different result - preferably the one you're after? It's about measuring and managing the process. You must think of it this way. Next, you absolutely must learn to love failure. Nothing in life is easy or free, and everything worthwhile requires effort and sacrifice. I don't know a single successful person who doesn't fail over and over. They step up though, and respond. They welcome the failures, because they know that right around the corner lays their next greatest successes. The legendary basketball player, Michael Jordan, said it best, "I fail over and over again, and that is why I succeed". Words to live by. It's not about looking for failure, it's about accepting it for what it is, learning from it, and changing your approach when it happens. There's one more element to dealing with failure, and probably the most critical - the emotional element. Rather than go on-and-on, let's get right to the strategies to prepare you. Here are 5 simply ways to prepare yourself emotionally for dealing with failure:
This is your new blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar. This is your new blog post. Click here and start typing, or drag in elements from the top bar. If you really want something in life, you absolutely must commit to going for it 1000%. You must live, eat, sleep, breath, be willing to die to get what you want. Watch this video and enjoy! How many articles have you read on the topic, "how the way we do business has radically changed over the past 5 to 10 years", or something related to that. Everyday another expert offers his or her opinion on how the business climate has changed and the absolute steps you must take or fail miserably. You know what, they're all correct. Technology has repainted the business landscape. You know what else, they are all missing and dismissing one critical element though. RELATIONSHIPS! No matter how you slice business, at the end of the day you still have a product or service to sell and those who develop sincere relationships sell the most. Don't get me wrong, use technology and new paradigms to meet and reinforce relationships. But at its core, businesses are built by face-to-face and over-the-phone interactions. Over 80% of all communication in non-verbal, according to the most recent Stanford University study, so you must commit to honing your interpersonal communication skills. Here are 5 actions to take now to build your interpersonal skills:
Okay, okay, one last one... ...send a hand written note to new contacts that includes just a brief note about something you either talked about or have in common. They'll never forget you for it, and it will fortify solid ground to build a genuine future on. Technology is wonderful. It has changed the way we do business from a functional standpoint. Use it to augment relationships, but don't ever let it get in the way of real relationship building skills. People still buy from people. Go out, shake a hand and make a friend. Here is a list of my most frequently asked sales, business and overall life questions. The answers are distilled from years of failure, years of success, and also come from some of the most successful people on the planet. Enjoy! Question: How early should I get up? Answer: At least an 1 1/2 before everyone else you're competing against. You need that time to prepare mentally, emotionally and physically. Question: How come I always get the same objections? Answer: You're presenting the same way every time, delivering no value, making undue assumptions, not asking thought provoking and insightful questions and you're not prepared. Question: What's the best way to plan my day? Answer: Pick a system, one system only, and focus all your efforts on making it work for you. Don't use two or three different methods. There are dozens of great systems out there including just a pen and paper. They all work if you use them. Pick one and stick with it. Question: Is eating well and exercising that important? Answer: Let me put it to you this way - if there's no fuel, or the wrong type of fuel, in your car's tank you're not going anywhere. Your goals, dreams and aspirations require fuel. Question: I can't get passed the gatekeeper, what should I do? Answer: Much has been written on this area. Keep it simple. The simplest way, connect with them through social media and build a relationship. Earn the right to approach them. Next easiest approach, find a salesperson at the company and have them introduce you around. Salespeople love to talk and give you information. Question: What can I do to get my voice mails returned? Answer: Be creative, add tons of value, earn the right to receive a return call, and when all else fails - hang up in the middle of your message. Curiosity will cause most of your messages to get returned. Question: What are the best places to network? Answer: Chambers of Commerce, local business mixers(Business Journal event, breakfasts, seminars), networking clubs(only if they make sense for your business model), health clubs, Toastmasters, civic organizations, the airport, social media, anywhere there are potential clients. Question: How do you stay in such a great, upbeat mood all the time? Answer: This isn't a Greg trait, but rather a trait of all high performers. We take care of ourselves physically, emotionally, and mentally. We read something inspirational throughout the day, we review our goals daily, we exercise on a regular basis(usually 5 days + per week), we fuel our bodies with high quality nourishment, we have a positive outlook on life and tell ourselves such, and we look for the good in every situation no matter how dire it may be. Question: What's the best method you've found to close someone? Answer: First, this isn't the 1960's. Build a relationship and become friends with your prospect, build more value than anyone else, create a winning environment, act selflessly, and let them buy - don't sell. There are dozens more questions, and these listed are condensed into what I get asked most frequently. Now, how can you apply them to your own life? Knowing what you know now compared to when you started your chosen profession or business, would you do all over again the same way? Would you even be in the same profession, or would you make a complete overhaul tomorrow morning and start fresh if you knew you couldn't fail? Anyway you look at it; most people would absolutely make the changes necessary; whether it be in their chosen profession or their own business. Professionals have already made the mistakes and paid the price along the way, so they have the knowledge of what not to do and what to do. So why don't they, or you, re-engineer your business? Why do you keep continuing down the same path, reaping the same activities and strategies, and sowing the same results you've always settled for? The answer is fear. Even armed with the knowledge that you cannot fail, most people are so overtaken by fear, that they won’t even do what they know to be right. William Shakespeare wrote in, Julius Caesar, “Cowards die many times before their deaths. The valiant never taste of death but once. Experience is expensive and you always pay upfront. Well, you've already paid the tab, so why not put that experience to good use. Take what you know and re-engineer yourself. You can become anyone you want. Your business can become its ideal form. This economic climate is the absolute ideal time to reinvent yourself and re-engineer your business. You must position yourself now to anticipate and take advantage of the upswing. It will come, and when it does, will you be ready, or will you just be content to keep the status quo? Don't be controlled by fear. Dance with it, be friends with it, embrace it, and most importantly kick its ass and take your life and business to levels you keep day-dreaming about. Harness your knowledge of what you've learned and transform now. Forgive my rant, but I’ve run into a rash of entrepreneurs lately who want it all yet aren’t putting the necessary effort in. It got me thinking about entrepreneurship, parenting, athletics, really anything worth anything in life. Let’s say you’re in your local electronics superstore and you see a television you really want. The only way to take it home is to pay the price, and the only way to pay the price and take it home is to earn money by paying the price in your profession. That doesn’t mean waking up at 7 am after hitting your alarm 4 times, daydreaming 80% of the day about what you wish you were doing, spending an hour with friends at lunch or the coffee shop instead of clients and prospects, going home at 5pm, and it certainly doesn’t mean hanging out in front of the TV eating Cheeto’s and surfing the internet for meaningless nonsense. If that’s the price you’re paying, you’re getting everything out of life you’re asking for – nothing; failure at your job, in your personal life, and your health. Life will pay you any price you pay it. So, if you want real success on your terms with your health, your happiness, your relationships, your business, your sales, and success as an entrepreneur then it’s time to start paying the price necessary. Here’s your American Express Black Card plan for success (pardon the metaphor):
There’s perhaps no greater skill that will get you ahead in life further than, listening. This presumes you’re asking the right questions of course, but for arguments sake let say you are. I call it, practice not art, because to be an effective listener you must practice every day. Sadly it’s a skill most people fail miserably. Most are so focused on what they have to say or contribute that they fail to understand and relate to whoever is talking. It’s completely disrespectful and self centered. Yet, effective listening does so much for you. It builds instant trust with others, because they can tell you are genuinely interested. You gain valuable insights, knowledge, skills, love, and respect. If you’re in sales effective listening reveals all the critical information necessary to build relationships, handle stalls and objections, and make deals happen. If you’re a parent or in a relationship, listening builds bridges of trust, rapport and love. So how do you become a better listener? Practice these 7 strategies with every conversation and you will drastically improve your skills and your future.
Follow these 7 strategies, and you’ll open up a world of respect, cause your success to happen easier, and build a more fulfilling future filled with rich and deep relationships and greater knowledge. |
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